There are so many couples I have worked with who share with me that they thought they wanted more sex and they realised that what was really missing, was intimacy. There is a very common dynamic. Early on in the relationship, sex starts off great and then for a...
I love working with couples. In a recent session with one of my couples clients, we started exploring what it is that they really want. The woman said she didn’t know what she wanted. I guided the couple to play a really simple yet deeply profound game from the Wheel...
One of the biggest and most damaging myths about relationships is that they should happen naturally and effortlessly, and if they don’t, then something is potentially wrong with you, your partner or your relationship. So many couples have shared this fear with me over...
They know it’s out there, they just don’t know how to make it happen which is why some couples have booked onto our course, INTIMACY. They know about hot sex and it’s just not working anymore. Hot sex Adrenalised sex Sex in sympathetic nervous system ...
There has been a huge growth especially in the last 5 years of sexuality teachers, coaches, courses and workshops etc which is of course wonderful. When I started exploring this work nearly twenty years ago there was very little available and you really had to...
Over the last 20 years I have listened to many many people talk about their sex lives. It’s an honour and a privilege every single time as people share with me things they have often never talked about before and over the years I’ve heard people talk a lot about how...
It is okay to not like the word ‘pussy’. It doesn’t make you any less of a sexual being. You can be an empowered sexual, sensual woman and never use the word ‘pussy’. In recent years there has been a wave of women reclaiming the word ‘pussy’. I know women and...
This is a revelation for many people that I work with. The women I work with often grow up to believe that their sexual energy is for other people and usually that means it’s for men - whether lovers or partners. This run so deep in our world. Just look at marketing...
Anthi, in her mid-40s, reached out to me as intimacy with her long term partner had pretty much stopped. She found sex ‘scary and disgusting’. She grew up being told that sex was dirty, only men want it and women do it for the men. Over the years, sex was often when...
The Truth About Foreplay: If you are frustrated with foreplay, you don’t feel you get enough or that there is too much pressure on it, watch this video to discover a new way to think about foreplay and why and how thinking differently will transform your experience....