Myself and my partner Sarah, endeavour to put half a day aside for sexual intimacy regularly. This is amazing because I look back into my early 40s, and I, like many men thought I’d lost most of my libido completely. I’d strayed away from my Taoists sexual...
I am noticing the emergence of a new conversation about sex and one that I really welcome. One of the things I love about it is that it’s not about Tantra, or technique or toys. It’s what you might have heard of as slow sex (Slow Sex is also the title of Diana...
I love working with couples. In a recent session with one of my couples clients, we started exploring what it is that they really want. The woman said she didn’t know what she wanted. I guided the couple to play a really simple yet deeply profound game from the Wheel...
One of the biggest and most damaging myths about relationships is that they should happen naturally and effortlessly, and if they don’t, then something is potentially wrong with you, your partner or your relationship. So many couples have shared this fear with me over...
There has been a huge growth especially in the last 5 years of sexuality teachers, coaches, courses and workshops etc which is of course wonderful. When I started exploring this work nearly twenty years ago there was very little available and you really had to...
“This is for me” is a phrase I learnt from Betty Martin’s wonderful work the wheel of consent and it’s a powerhouse of a phrase. Many of the women that I work with are so used to intimate pleasure being all about the other person. This is also true of some of...
Over the last 20 years I have listened to many many people talk about their sex lives. It’s an honour and a privilege every single time as people share with me things they have often never talked about before and over the years I’ve heard people talk a lot about how...
Susan came to the course feeling shut off from her sexual energy, and as she described ‘hopeless’ about her future. This course was her final attempt to see if change was possible and as she shared, her life has completely changed, more than she ever thought...
Kate thought her sexuality had disappeared. Two children had left her feeling like her body wasn’t hers. Years of breastfeeding and children wanting lots of physical touch and attention, by the end of the day all she wanted was some time on her own. She saw my...
To change how you experience, pleasure, sex and intimacy takes practice, practice practice. When you approach sex with a goal in mind, usually a goal of heading towards some type of penetration and a climax, it’s like putting the same coordinates in the sat nav...