This was a great conversation with Natalie Lue, a boundaries and relationship coach who‘s the creator of one of the longest running self-help blogs in the world, Baggage Reclaim, and The Baggage Reclaim Sessions podcast. Her 5th book, The Joy of Saying No: A Simple Plan to Stop People Pleasing, Reclaim Boundaries, and Say Yes to the Life You Want came out this year.
Many people I work with would define themselves as ‘people pleasers’ or ‘recovering people pleasers’ and it deeply affects how you show up in dating and intimate relationships so it was important to have this conversation with Natalie.
Natalie shares the 5 types of people pleasers, why you might people please and how it can show up in your life, practical ways to begin to step out of people pleasing, people pleasing in dating and relationships and how to stop accepting ‘crumbs’. Natalie also shared the landmarks of healthy relationships and the 4 qualities of a loving partner.
- Nat’s definition of people pleasing
- Why you might people please and how it can show up in your life
- The 5 types of people pleasers
- The feelings and thoughts that can be associated with people pleasing
- Practical ways to begin to step out of people pleasing
- People pleasing in dating and relationships
- How to stop accepting ‘crumbs’ when you are dating
- The landmarks of healthy relationships
- The 4 qualities of a loving partner
- What is changing in her life from peri-menopause
Natalie Lue is a boundaries and relationship coach who‘s the creator of one of the longest running self-help blogs in the world, Baggage Reclaim, and The Baggage Reclaim Sessions podcast. The England-born, Ireland-raised author helps people understand how their emotional baggage is interfering with their ability to live their lives happily and authentically. Natalie’s authored five books, including Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl and The Joy of Saying No (Jan 2023, HarperCollins). Her advice has been featured in the New York Times, Forbes, NPR, USA Today, and the BBC, among many others.
RESOURCES FROM NATALIE
Natalie’s latest book – The Joy of Saying No: A Simple Plan to Stop People Pleasing, Reclaim Boundaries, and Say Yes to the Life You Want by Natalie Lee
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Mentioned by Natalie
Down Girl: The Logic of Misogyny by Kate Manne
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