intimacy

It’s not sex you’re craving – it’s intimacy

It’s not sex you’re craving – it’s intimacy

  There are so many couples I have worked with who share with me that they thought they wanted more sex and they realised that what was really missing, was intimacy. There is a very common dynamic. Early on in the relationship, sex starts off great and then for a...

Slow sex and menopause

Slow sex and menopause

  My body is changing. Over a year ago, I started experiencing pain during love making which I’d never experienced pain before. It wasn’t extreme but enough that I wanted to stop. I didn’t understand it at first because there was nothing happening that I could...

Myths & misunderstandings about sexual intimacy

Myths & misunderstandings about sexual intimacy

  Whenever I hear client stories, whether my private couples, or the ones in our INTIMACY course, I see how so many of the challenges they are experiencing are down to the massive lack of quality information and education about sex and relationships. We learn a...

A new conversation about sex – from hot sex to relaxed sex

A new conversation about sex – from hot sex to relaxed sex

  I am noticing the emergence of a new conversation about sex and one that I really welcome. One of the things I love about it is that it’s not about Tantra, or technique or toys. It’s what you might have heard of as slow sex (Slow Sex is also the title of Diana...

Getting to know what you really want

Getting to know what you really want

I love working with couples. In a recent session with one of my couples clients, we started exploring what it is that they really want. The woman said she didn’t know what she wanted. I guided the couple to play a really simple yet deeply profound game from the Wheel...

Why it’s important to prioritise your relationship

Why it’s important to prioritise your relationship

One of the biggest and most damaging myths about relationships is that they should happen naturally and effortlessly, and if they don’t, then something is potentially wrong with you, your partner or your relationship. So many couples have shared this fear with me over...

People are looking for a different way to make love

People are looking for a different way to make love

  They know it’s out there, they just don’t know how to make it happen which is why some couples have booked onto our course, INTIMACY. They know about hot sex and it’s just not working anymore. Hot sex Adrenalised sex Sex in sympathetic nervous system  ...

This is for me

This is for me

  “This is for me” is a phrase I learnt from Betty Martin’s wonderful work the wheel of consent and it’s a powerhouse of a phrase. Many of the women that I work with are so used to intimate pleasure being all about the other person. This is also true of some of...